• YeahIgotskills2@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    I was surprised to learn that there are many women who have never had an orgasm. And that pressure to have one has become yet another social imperative women never asked for. Why shame the woman? Should they not have agency over their own bodies? The implication that it’s a failing of their partner suggests that it’s beyond their control.

    It feels like a very male-centric outlook to view orgasms as essential to sex. Of course, one would assume women could take matters into their own hands, so to speak, but I’ve been told by female friends that, for many women, it’s not as simple as that, psychologically.

    My own opinion is that, in our race for equality (which I support), we’ve often chosen to flatten gender differences rather than celebrate or acknowledge them. We’ve assumed that sexuality/desire/impulse/physiology is the same across genders, and that differences are down to individual mindsets rather than biological. I think it’s both, but we’ve neglected the latter.

    • WIZARD POPE💫@lemmy.world
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      13 hours ago

      I myself don’t view orgasms as essential to sex. At least not anymore. I am a bit saddened that my gf says she has never had an orgasm. And I don’t think anyone in particular is to blame here.

  • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    … fortunately for you, I have a treatment that won’t cost much. No, you can’t watch. Also, there’s a discount if you pay for a full year in advance.

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      8 hours ago

      They actually got their clit rubbed by the doctor. Then some doctor got tired of fingering many women and invented the vibrator.