Horrified by the recent murder of Kawthar al-Husayjawi, one of her female relatives describes what happened – and her fears for other women and girls forced into early marriage in Iraq
“… in that car with three men from the family that was supposed to be her circle of safety.”
In that society, no, they are not supposed to be her saftey net. Men aren’t even the same species in that society. People ask how could they… They don’t consider women as people.
Even in the western society, women generally have to live multiple lives. In public they are supposed to be beautiful and smiling all the time. In the bedroom they are supposed to be slutty (but only for their man). With children they are supposed to be saintly. In the home they are supposed to have the managment skills few CEOs possess.
Men these days are supposed to have only two personalities. At work and mixed company they are supposed to treat women like people and respect them. In the locker room, with their buddies, or behind closed doors, not so much.
That is why in some places, unmarried women are not supposed to be alone with a man. Because the men want to remove the “at work and mixed company” part so that they can drop one of those personalities. This murder is the result of taking away the time when women are supposed to be treated like people, and letting the men lean into the worst personality they can have.
“… in that car with three men from the family that was supposed to be her circle of safety.” In that society, no, they are not supposed to be her saftey net. Men aren’t even the same species in that society. People ask how could they… They don’t consider women as people.
Even in the western society, women generally have to live multiple lives. In public they are supposed to be beautiful and smiling all the time. In the bedroom they are supposed to be slutty (but only for their man). With children they are supposed to be saintly. In the home they are supposed to have the managment skills few CEOs possess.
Men these days are supposed to have only two personalities. At work and mixed company they are supposed to treat women like people and respect them. In the locker room, with their buddies, or behind closed doors, not so much.
That is why in some places, unmarried women are not supposed to be alone with a man. Because the men want to remove the “at work and mixed company” part so that they can drop one of those personalities. This murder is the result of taking away the time when women are supposed to be treated like people, and letting the men lean into the worst personality they can have.